Like everyone else I too have role modals. From many people that have inspired me... there is someone that has touched my heart more then the rest and I would like to be like him... particularly in the business world.
He was personally coaching me in Malaysia two years back and I like to work with him. I don't have to think much or to be frank don't have to do much. Any problems, just run to him and always bring him for any difficult meetings and I bet you - he always had solutions! And the best part, his solutions always worked! I would not ask for anything more except to have him with me everyday in my business world!
Then came a day, exactly 2 years ago... he had to leave this country.... he migrated to another part of the world where he could give the best for his family!
I was afraid of this day as he started preparing me for this moment... no matter how much i was prepared for this... it wasn't the same when I was left without him to figure out the rest of my journey!
For the first few months I was very confident and then when things got rough, I started asking many questions... am I ready, I need someone else, can I do this... etc.. never ending!
Being the strong one, I told myself, Kalai... it's time to rise and be like my role modal! I suddenly found that inner strength to continue the journey! Everyday I faced my days wanting to be like my role modal...
2 years passed and I didn't see much changes in my organization or me... I am still inspired... i still want to be like my role modal but what is missing?
About a week ago, I was asked to attend a close door meeting/training/discussion for selected Malaysian leaders to discuss on Malaysian sales and strategies to bring our sales to another level...
With a lot of reluctance I attended this meeting. Don't ask me why but my heart was so heavy to be there... guess I still missed my role modal and quietly I have decided there is no one else can bring this country to another level except for him!
While the facilitator was asking for suggestions... I kept saying, if so and so was here, this and that is what he would have done! I even continued by saying I am sorry but I don't see anyone else doing that...
The facilitator looked at me and said, "why don't you be the one?"! For a moment, I was shocked... it came like a slap on my face... I wasn't sure how to react and most importantly... that question went into my heart like a needle!
Yes... why can't I be him and why must I always work from the point of wanting to be like him? Wanting to be like him and being like him is like the north and the south pole!
This is the missing link - I need to be him now and only then I will get the results he got!
I walked out of that room... silently making that decision, this Kalai is no longer the same Kalai that walked into that room 48 hours ago!
And you know what last week has been a superb week! I created results that I couldn't create for last 2 years in Malaysia! Guess this is what it means by the shift in my mindset! I finally understood.
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