If the inside is right, the outside will fall in place!

It has been very long since the last I sat down to write. Hhmm... caught up with daily events of life? I don't think I was that busy that I couldn't find 15 minutes from my 24 hours to write!
This morning I found myself asking the famous question again, " What happen?"!
Two days ago I had to handle my inner core group 'high level' confrontational meeting. Not exactly an exciting moment... but this is something that is very crucial to bring my organization to another level. They spoke, the got angry, some cried, some got irritated and some thought it was a waste of time! All possible emotions was in the room....
What I realized that day was, It is so easy to point at someone else and say, you have to be like that and this or you haven't done what needed to be done in your position! It is so much easier to point at someone else and not see how I could have done things differently to create a different outcome!
What some of them didn't realize is by thinking the other person has to change, they are holding the anger and the expectation for change to come from the other party! Sad to say, Gandhi is right, the only person you can change is yourself and no one else!
By expecting someone else to change, you only hold your anger and frustration longer and eventually you drain yourself!
Hhhm... I am not surprised why some in that room are struggling to create the results that they desire. Once again I was assured that success only comes to those who are in peace within...
Now, back to why I haven't been writing... guess I found my answer this morning! I got so caught up with details of events around me and I forgot the real reason I started this journey. Some time back, I told my self, the only reason I do this because I want to be an inspiration for 1000s of people across the globe so they could believe in magic of life again and I started writing this blog so that I can share my journey little bit more on a personal level... then when I took my eyes from the bigger picture, all the details around me became more important!
Guess, again it goes back to... if the inside is right, the outside will fall in place!

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Heavy traffic & rain... and the rest is a mystery!

Today my sister and I were caught in a bad traffic and rain. We didn't want to spend hours on the road cursing the rain and the cars so we decided to divert into a mall, have a nice dinner... we had good Thai food and then walked around the mall looking at all those new things that was crying out loud for attention.
Then we came to a nice boutique... it looked so beautiful and me being big, definitely can't fit into those cute clothes... :( hhmm I looked at my sister and yes, she can fit into it! My eyes, glittered and said... "you must try this"! She gave me that stare and asked me, can i carry this off... I have never wore something like this...
I said... look we have more then an hour to kill... we have a choice, we die of boredom or lets have some fun... I quickly picked few nice stunning looking outfit and being the shopping freak, it just took me couple of seconds to figure her size out... took her to the fitting room and sat down there and asked her to try it on!
She hesitated for a while but she couldn't run anywhere and out of no choice act she tried! The moment she put on the first dress and looked at herself on the full mirror... she didn't say anything... she just starred at herself without a single word for sometime... I was getting worried and asked her, "what's wrong?", and slowly she said, "I never thought I can look this beautiful... Is this what money can do?"!
I looked at my little sister and yes that was a beautiful woman standing in front of me... so beautiful, so elegant and gorgeous! She couldn't believe her own eyes... :)
We spent the next 30 minutes or so in that little room, trying out few more outfits and admiring how beautiful she looked!
To all ladies out there it is not a co-incident rich woman always look beautiful... yes, money can bring out the best looks in you!
My sister's way of looking at clothes will never be the same anymore... and the best part, she brought one of those beautiful dress back home! We should get caught more in rain and traffic!
And on our way out she said, " we are making hell a lot of money and living this life to the fullest"!
Who said... money can't buy happiness? Money is not everything but a lot of good things in life comes with good money!

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Adapting to my existing reality

Once someone told me that I have to adapt to my existing reality! I didn't understand this at that time but guess lately it is beginning to make sense to me...
I worked so hard to be where I am today but most of the time I still make decision thinking of who I was 7 years ago... I want people to treat me the same way they did 7 years ago, I want to handle things the same way...
Guess this is what has been holding me from moving to another level. If I can't even begin to act from where I am today, how would I pass this phase?
Reflecting few events that took place in my life last 2 weeks, I realized it was an effect of me not acting from this phase of life!
I am going to take some time, list down exactly who I am now and pen down where I want to be 5 years from now and work towards that.
The only way I can climb another level is by me adapting to my existing reality!

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The dreaded journey.

After very long I woke up at 6am this morning to be out for a breakfast meeting at 7am! I can't remember when was the last time I ever did this since I left the 9am - 6pm corporate world 5 years ago!
For all those who are reading my blog for the first time... I left my profession as an electrical consulting engineer 5 years ago to do network marketing full time! I am where I am because of network marketing...
As I was driving to the meeting place, suddenly I asked myself, what would my life have been today if I still had my job and didn't find network marketing...
Yes, I would have climbed the corporate ladder. I can work real hard and I am a performer... yes, I would have been married with 2 kids and yes, I would have driven a nice car and take home a five figure income from job... but I don't think I would have been rich like today... no there is no way I would have been this rich!
I don't think, my mind, heart and soul would have experienced richness the way I do today... I am definitely not talking about money. One can make money anywhere but very few places that truly makes you rich and I found that in this journey that I took 5 years ago!
7 years ago, my only sister walked out of my apartment and said there is no one on this planet that can live under the same roof with me! My mom & dad cried many nights silently wondering what they did wrong with me... I was young, energetic, excited about making it in life but little my life contributed to anyone around me but only to the buildings I built!
Today, I sit with anyone and they tell me... their life is touched... the giant in them is awaken or they just feel uplifted! My sister says... she can't imagine her life today without me.... mom & dad love to have me around and most importantly... they just love to share their thoughts and hearts with me... and I give every credit to my network marketing leaders that worked on me for last 5 years! As much as many do not want to hear this, yes it is network marketing that created me today!

Then why is this industry so much dreaded by people?

In normal circumstances, I am not the kind of person that would look into network marketing as an opportunity. 7 years back, I met a very fine successful businessman who showed me how in network marketing I can be more financially successful then in corporate and business world... how I can make more money and have the time luxury that conventional system do not offer! He was so good that I was convinced and I bought the idea of this free enterprise!
Then I struggled to make money here. I, who took home a comfortable income from job struggled to make anything here... then life brought me to another amazing 'guru' who basically took me in his hands, turned me around... inside out and gave me back to the world! And that is the girl that went out and created what I have today!
The challenge this industry has today is, it is lacking of people that truly want to dedicate their lives to making difference to others. Many come into the industry only to make money and I guarantee you these same people put anywhere else will not really excel either! Don't get me wrong they might make money but making money is only the first step of your search to a rich life!
Network Marketing is a beautiful vehicle to finding the true richness in life... and how to find the right company for you? It is not the product, it is not the marketing plan or even the size of their office but the only thing that will make a difference to you is when you find someone in that company that can gain your trust and somewhere deep in you, you can believe that person can make a difference to who you are today... and when you find that person, join them and hang in there till you make it!
Let me remind you... it might not be the person who introduces you to the opportunity. Like me, I don't even know where my sponsor is now and the last I saw him was 7 years ago!
A true network marketing leader is the one that makes you the finest product of his or her organization!

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I can only work on myself!

Every Tuesday in Malaysia, I do a session called 'Questions & Answers'. It is simply a forum for all new business builders to come with their questions and a facilitator will put all the questions on the board and I will answer them and if I am not in town, one of my senior leaders will continue the tradition.
Last Tuesday, one of the questions that caught my attention was, "how do i build closer relationship with my core leaders?"! Hmm.. what is the secret?
Interesting enough, the word 'relationship' has been in my head for last couple of days! I have come to realize it is easier to make money then to keep close relationships alive :)
Do the relationship rules and methods really work? Can one really have this perfect relationship with someone... or is there even such thing as a perfect relationship or to start with 'secret' to relationship?
Let me be very open with you... I am really bad at keeping a relationship alive! Made many mistakes... destroyed some... still struggling with some... but have seen some tremendous improvement lately in many different relationships!
So, I went back and really thought about it... how could one improve his relationship with his core leaders?
Today, I was talking to my better half and we were discussing how our relationship has evolved and how we are in a different phase now and etc...
Then it clicked! The only reason why my relationship with many people around me seem to be getting better it is because I am working harder on myself... that is the secret!
There is no way I can work on a relationship. I can only work on myself! Then I realized, that is what my better half and I have been doing. We have been setting small goals for ourselves and have been helping each other to keep ourselves on track and that has helped to grow our relationship without even realizing it!
Then I reflected on my relationship with my core leaders... yes, it is far better then it was ever before. And it is because I have continuously worked on myself! It is so right... I can only work on myself!

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You are the bearer of hope!

No excuses for not writing for very long... many times, I wanted to write but just couldn't get my thoughts to words. Guess that is the challenge with people like me who likes to follow the little voice inside my heart!
I am happy with that little voice inside me... is that voice that has brought me this far...
Today I am compelled to share with you one of my interesting experience i had during my recent visit to the continent that changed my destiny!
From the moment I arrived till the 10 days I was there, I did nothing but listen to many of my leaders bringing up to me their 'challenges'! Many different things, from wanting a change, just wanting to be heard to some even said they care and don't want me to be let down... etc!
I was frustrated, I wanted to blow up! My first reaction was, " I have done so much for you guys and can't you figure your life out??"!! Then, my anger took over, "Screw you, I will do what I have to do, to keep this market going... even if it means I have to make you irrelevant"!
Then... the little voice inside me spoke in that usual gentle soothing manner... "hey girl you have gone through worse then this... you can figure out the best that is required..."
Then I remembered something i read sometime back... as a leader, my first role is as a bearer of hope for my people! Hhhmm... no matter what happens, I am the bearer of hope for my people...
I went into my room... i sat on my reading table... i said a prayer... took some blank paper and i drew my action plan on that blank sheet.. my heart told me, i probably need to draw this out clearly so everyone can see what I have! So that is what I did... i drew out everything clearly... defined and structured!
I called for my core leaders meeting, i gave them my input, they were shocked and most importantly i saw that hope in their eyes... never in their wildest dreams... they thought there was a solution for their differences!
Then I called in my second layer leadership, and they got excited! Seeing them getting excited, the core leaders just knew this is the way forward!
Then one of my older leaders said... maybe, all those meetings you had was preparing us for today!
I smiled... and my heart said again... you are the bearer of hope for your people!




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A shift in my mindset.

Like everyone else I too have role modals. From many people that have inspired me... there is someone that has touched my heart more then the rest and I would like to be like him... particularly in the business world.
He was personally coaching me in Malaysia two years back and I like to work with him. I don't have to think much or to be frank don't have to do much. Any problems, just run to him and always bring him for any difficult meetings and I bet you - he always had solutions! And the best part, his solutions always worked! I would not ask for anything more except to have him with me everyday in my business world!
Then came a day, exactly 2 years ago... he had to leave this country.... he migrated to another part of the world where he could give the best for his family!
I was afraid of this day as he started preparing me for this moment... no matter how much i was prepared for this... it wasn't the same when I was left without him to figure out the rest of my journey!
For the first few months I was very confident and then when things got rough, I started asking many questions... am I ready, I need someone else, can I do this... etc.. never ending!
Being the strong one, I told myself, Kalai... it's time to rise and be like my role modal! I suddenly found that inner strength to continue the journey! Everyday I faced my days wanting to be like my role modal...
2 years passed and I didn't see much changes in my organization or me... I am still inspired... i still want to be like my role modal but what is missing?
About a week ago, I was asked to attend a close door meeting/training/discussion for selected Malaysian leaders to discuss on Malaysian sales and strategies to bring our sales to another level...
With a lot of reluctance I attended this meeting. Don't ask me why but my heart was so heavy to be there... guess I still missed my role modal and quietly I have decided there is no one else can bring this country to another level except for him!
While the facilitator was asking for suggestions... I kept saying, if so and so was here, this and that is what he would have done! I even continued by saying I am sorry but I don't see anyone else doing that...
The facilitator looked at me and said, "why don't you be the one?"! For a moment, I was shocked... it came like a slap on my face... I wasn't sure how to react and most importantly... that question went into my heart like a needle!
Yes... why can't I be him and why must I always work from the point of wanting to be like him? Wanting to be like him and being like him is like the north and the south pole!
This is the missing link - I need to be him now and only then I will get the results he got!
I walked out of that room... silently making that decision, this Kalai is no longer the same Kalai that walked into that room 48 hours ago!
And you know what last week has been a superb week! I created results that I couldn't create for last 2 years in Malaysia! Guess this is what it means by the shift in my mindset! I finally understood.





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Good Luck :)

The beginning of my 100 days commitment has been a good start. Yesterday I accomplished what I could not do in last 2 months. When I set a target and I do not give myself a chance to sway from that target... anything can be accomplished! Guess this is what it is called 'state of mind' and the key to any success!
Today I didn't write this wanting to talk about my 100 days commitment but something else that caught my attention this morning and I think it is worth sharing with you...
Many times like this morning, people will send me text messages or emails and ask me how do I get that and this done! I want create this results, I want achieve that and what should I do....
Interesting question yes... even I do that all the time!
This morning, one of 'students' asked me this particular question, "How do I keep my energy positive so I can attract positive results?".
My reply was... "What do you think you need to do?"
To my surprise, she gave me a list of things that she can do! Everything looked perfectly a good place to start!
Talking to my 'student' got one of my questions answered... we have to start with what/where we already know and the rest will fall in place!
Wise people say, every answer relies in us and it is very true... every answer is in us! Our mind only sees things we already have solutions!
To all those who have 100s of questions on how/when/what/where... just start will what you already know... the rest will fall in place!
I have been asking myself lately, how do I increase my income by 10 folds in next 6 months... I am going to begin where I already know! Thank you to my 'student' for being my 'teacher' today!
Good Luck to me :)

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My next 100 days begins...

Last 2 weeks has been life defining for me... we just concluded one of the best conventions ever in last 6 years! I haven't had time to write but thought I better start now or another week will pass by just like that!
7000 people from 40 over countries... all walks of life gathered for a week at Stadium Melawati, Shah Alam Malaysia for a life defining moment! The speakers, trainers who went up on stage were amazing! They were so real... they opened up their hearts to all those who want to take home something from here... I was given the privilege to begin the convention with my favorite module - The Power of Dream! It turned out pretty well... at times I am taken back with what I can do on stage... to look back... till today... I still see this shy timid small town girl sitting in one corner hoping one day she will be somebody... i do wonder where that girl has gone and where she gets her strength today! Yes she is somebody today...
When we closed the convention, I sat down quietly again at one corner and asked myself, where do I go from here... yes, I am so ready to take my life to another phase! I want to climb greater heights, I want to reach out to more people, I want to pass on this strength to more people... yes, I am so ready! I packed my bags and went home with this new hope and new inspirations!
3 days has passed since I came back and I have not done anything except to sleep... in the name of recovering from the exhaustion! Phew! They said the most difficult person to lead in our life is ourselves! Oh boy, who ever said that is so right! It is much easier to give instruction and to lead others then myself!
So I have decided, if I can't lead myself... I have no right to lead anyone else! I am making a serious decision and commitment to launch myself to another phase in the next 100 days starting today! The count down towards 100 days of next phase of my life begins! I will keep you posted!

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The odd one out!

Lately I have been slightly disturbed with a decision I made... 

You see, I believe that true recognition and satisfaction comes from people that we build and nothing is more fulfilling then seeing our people grow and succeed!

Couple of weeks back I was put in a position to nominate someone from my team that is qualified for leadership recognition. After giving a real deep thought, I decided I am not nominating anyone this year...

My reasoning for this, I personally feel, this is just their beginning in their growth as a leader. It's time to get sharper, work harder and take more ownership and produce more winners in their respective teams. I also do not want to be in a position that I have to defend their nomination. If one is nominated, they should be already standing up from the rest and there will not be a need for me to defend them. 

Today I had  a chance to see other nominees from many other groups. Yes some are qualified but most are not even half-way of where my leadership is! 

At one point, I almost asked myself... did I make a mistake? How would my people feel if they find out these people are nominated and not them! There were many questions in my head... 

There was even a thought, should I try and insert their names now! All kind of thoughts... the how if and what if...

Later in the day, I got an opportunity to personally speak to some of these nominees and after that talk... I more then ever felt my decision is right!

I realized pushing one for recognition too early doesn't help them to grow in anyway. It gives them a feeling they have arrived and it can be very dangerous especially if their roots are not strong.

I realized today it is okay for me to raise my bench mark higher... If I want to be the number one team in the world, I have to do things differently...

I have no idea if all my leaders will today understand my decision but when we finally arrive at the top, it will make sense to them! My only goal now is to get my leaders to the TOP!

So, I have decided not to try and fit in but to be the odd one out!

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Undivided Faith and Intensity!

Lately, I have been talking to my team in Malaysia so much about having faith and giving 100% at what ever we do... especially if we are building a business!

Somehow, I don't think I got the message to them and I was wondering... how do I make them see, it is all about total faith and intensity! 

Today, I got a text message from someone that I have been working with closely helping him build his team last few years. The last I met him was like a month ago when I visited his country. Before I left I told him, keep your faith strong and increase your intensity...

In his message today he said... " last Tuesday I met a stranger in a cafe. She is a Finance Manager. I spoke to her and talked about the business and shared the plan with her. First she agreed to buy a vacation from me and the next day she sounded skeptical. I sat with her again and told her, I don't want to sell her anything but I want to work with her and build this empire together as I see huge potential in her. To my surprise she bought my idea and she just signed up in the business and she also paid for the flight ticket to be at Malaysia with me end of the month for the world conference! I am so excited and she is special to me!"

Success has no formula and yes, this is the way the universe rewards you for your undivided faith and intensity! 

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Quitting is not an Option!

Few days ago I was reading a text message from a friend and a business partner. As you can see by now, most of my good friends are my business partners. Nothing is more fun then building an empire with your loved ones!

Okay, now back to my story... the message said something like, I have a business partner who wants to quit or a bit shaky and I need your help to give my business partner some confidence to continue...

I sat for a while looking at that message and my mind travelled far to somewhere 2 years ago...

Exactly 2 years ago, I had a good friend and a business partner who was challenged at that time with lack of results and that made my friend question the business and came to me for clarification or can say some direction...

At that point, I didn't understand what my friend was going through and he decided to quit his business and I allowed him to do that... or even maybe, I provoked him to quit.

Today when I saw this message I understood something, quitting is not an option in the journey of success! I allowed my good friend to quit. 

I came this far because I never had an option of quitting. There was a time in my first year building my empire, I broke down and gave up. I sat in my office with a senior business partner of mine crying and saying that this will not work for me and he being my senior, he said I have 100 things that I need to change before I can become successful. It was so difficult even to imagine I was going to make it. Being a woman, I just cried... at that moment a much elderly man and a very successful person saw me weeping, came to me and told my senior partner, leave this girl to me... he took me for a coffee and he said, "girl look at you, you graduated from an engineering school, you are talented, you look good and how could you not make it in business? Be like the lotus flower, elevate yourself from the rest and the bees will look for you! Quitting is not an option!".

That day I understood, quitting is not my option! 

2 years ago I made a terrible mistake by allowing someone else to quit. To my friend, please find a place in your heart to forgive me... this will not repeat! 

To the rest, Quitting is not an OPTION! 

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A lesson from an ordinary woman!

This morning I spent some time with a new friend from Jakarta, Indonesia. She is 50 and comes from relatively a rich family. Husband is well to do and has 4 lovely kids that goes to school in Malaysia. I lovingly call her 'Ibu'.

Ibu was introduced to me by a friend and also a business partner. We are planning to set up our organization Northstar in Indonesia.

When we were talking, Ibu said " I have tried many businesses but I failed. It was my mistake. I didn't focus and not enough work was put into it. Now, I am willing to focus. 

Can you guide me?".

I was taken up by her truthfulness and willingness to learn. Ibu continued, "I can't speak much English but I want to learn. So please talk to me in English so one day, I too can speak fluently."!

Wow that is something that I haven't heard in a while! 

Oh God, she is 50! And her husband is RICH! Why she needs to learn now???

Seeing her enthusiasm for life I got excited and I had a bit of mouth diarrhea and told her everything about a world convention that is taking place in Malaysia end of the month! It is a training and a fellowship of entrepreneurs of the world! 

And quietly i told her it will cost you 320US to attend... when my Malaysian friends hear the price, they will quickly tell me it is too much! So I was expecting the same reaction from her...

With her calmness she said, "like that... I must attend... I need training!" I almost fell off my chair... and I asked again, to reconfirm what I heard and she affirmed that she wants to come!

I asked her again, you want to register now or later, and she said, "Now can... I have 300US in my wallet.. 20US I give you tomorrow ok?"!

I smiled and said OK!

Guess this attitude of hers that has given her everything that she owns today! My hats off to ibu! To all the young Malaysian who ask me the favorite question, must I spend money or must I come for training??? Yes, you MUST!! 

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Learn to follow before you lead!

I have a team of people that I work closely across the globe and they are the leadership of my organization, NorthStar. End of this month, we are participating in a world conference hosted by the training giant, The V. 

Usually, it has been our tradition for my leadership to serve as in-service ( crew ) in conferences like this. This year, I made a bold decision and to ask some of them not to serve and just to participate. 

My reasoning for that was, I needed them to go back to basics and learn how to take care of their smaller groups so that they will know how to handle them in real situation. I also felt this will be a good time for them to bond with their respective teams as they will have to spend 5 solid days together. What has worked for me so far is my relationship with my leadership and I need then to do the same with their teams.

Those that I asked them not to serve at this particular conference are either experiencing lack of results or they are at a very important curve of their growth. I am also a strong believer, if they do not know how to care for their 10, they will never manage 100 and so on.

Interestingly, everyone except 2, agreed to follow what I had planned for them. At that point, I didn't say anything and I allowed the 2 to have it their way. 

Today, while I was driving back, somehow it came to me... the 2 that made decisions for themselves are the 2 with least results and most stubborn! Hhhmm... very interesting, could it be it is because of this they are struggling so much, not even knowing that their attitude is stopping them from getting their desired results! 

I remembered so well when I began this journey and till today... if someone is more successful then me, tells me to do something... I will follow! In fact, many times i have gone to my senior leaders and asked them, just tell me what I need to do and I will do!

For the 2, sadly they need to learn to follow before they can lead! 

Yes, one needs to learn to follow before they can be an effective leader!

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I am ready for the fun!

When I started building my organization, NorthStar 2 years back, I strained my relationship with couple of people. I really do not know why it happened that way.

At that time, my only consolation to continue my journey was, maybe at this point I have to take the walk without them. Lately, for some unknown reason I have been put again in front of them. Maybe God decided to give me a second chance...

What surprised me was the meetings went smooth and I don't see any reason for me to stay away from them and my heart suddenly just opened up to receiving them again in my life! I was puzzled... why is it what was so difficult before became so easy today...

Today while talking to my best friend, I found my answers. It is me who changed! I started believing my self more then ever and I started standing up for what I believe in. The moment I did that unknowingly the world reacted positively to me!

I am more then ever now ready to take my journey into the next 5 years phase and yes I am ready for the fun! 

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Thank you God for my best friend!

Today my best friend invited me for a charity event for single mothers hosted by his mom in her club. Inertially I wasn't sure if I wanted to go with him for this event. Yes, I am passionate about single mothers and one day I do want to own a foundation for single mothers but this morning wasn't exactly what I wanted to do right now but since it was my best friend and he only does the best for me I decided to go with him.

As I predicted it wasn't exactly what I wanted this morning but it is really not an issue... i got a chance to support my best friend's mother's mission and she looked happy and that is what maters at the end!

After the event, we went for coffee and to do our usual chat sessions! We talked many many things... from work to life to our love lives and to our future! We had good time and I got into my car to head home... hmmm... it was another good day with him! 

When I got home, I took my sister out for a coffee chat as she is also my business partner and I wanted to solidify my this month's plans. 

We were in a intense discussion when I screamed and almost took the entire attention in the restaurant! "We got what we were looking for... that is what our next two years mission will be!", thats exactly what I said! And my sister said, "It's a brilliant idea! How did you arrive here?".

I smiled and my heart cried out, thank you God for my best friend! 

Finally I understood, the event this morning, the coffee and the outing today with my best friend is to define my next 2 years! 

And I can say this one more time... Thank You God for my best friend! 

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Finally it made sense...

Two days ago, I was on the phone when I heard a voice said, "I thought so it was you... I thought I heard you!" 

I recognized that voice immediately! Yes he is the one... he is the man that sold me the idea to live my best life 8 years ago and the man who mentored me in my first 5 years of this journey i have embarked! 

I turned back and he gave me his usual loving smile that I still remembered very well... My heart was beating fast...

I have not spoken to this man in this close distance for the last 3 years... and now you understand my reaction! 

He politely asked me, " you have time for tea?" and I quickly without thinking said, sure!

We spoke a lot of things... basically we filled up the gap of the 3 years! I listened to his reasons why I interpreted things the way I did! And funny enough.. suddenly everything he said sounded logical! It made much more sense today then it ever did before!

You see 3 years ago I got upset with this man for many reasons and I concluded my life was better without him and if he brought me this far... now I would be able to walk the rest of the distance on my own! I heard many times, your strength are also your weakness but little I understood that time... My strong personality and stubbornness asked me to walk away and figure the rest of my journey without my mentor!

While talking to him, something hit me... that little voice inside me said, "hey girl, guess you finally grew up! You understand him today! It makes total sense... so 3 years ago, not that he had bad intentions but you were not at his growth level to understand what he was saying!".

Phew! That was a blow... hard hit on my head! 

I spent two hours talking to him and it was like the best conversation I had in last 3 years and he said something that captured my heart all over again... "you are still a part my 12 chosen individuals that I truly want to make them wealthy! Your name is still there...".

I realized... when I don't understand someone who is more successful then me, chances I am just not there yet and I need to grow up! 

 

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It's just the beginning!

I joined my sister and her friend today for lunch. My sister was telling me that this girl is new in Malaysia and just wanted her to feel at home and it will be nice if I could join them for lunch.

So, being the nice big sister I joined them for lunch :) and being a typical Malaysian I asked a lot of the usual questions... where do you come from, your family, home etc...

Then I found out that her whole family knows me and they are apart of my organization that I started. But she had no clue that she was actually sitting with the person she was talking about!

As she has never seen me before... 

Then my sister gave me the stare... her big sparkling eyes lighted up & she opened her big mouth and said... " You are sitting in front of the founder of Northstar and this is the person who you are talking about!".

The girl was shocked, her mouth opened big... she couldn't believe what she was hearing.

I asked her what is her mother's name, made few calls & got connected to her mom & found out where exactly she belongs to in my organization!

When she left... all my sister said was, " I did not believe that time, what you started 5 years ago will be this big today!" and she continued, " Will the day come, I might have to sit next to someone in plane, hear them talk to me about you and I will have to say... yes I know that girl too... she is my sister!".

And I gave her my usual calm smile and told her... get ready this is just the beginning! 

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It's better to encourage!

Today I really saw how far can one go with a little encouragement...

I was in a presentation and a good friend of mine was on stage doing introduction and she looked a little shaky so to encourage her I showed my thumbs up and instantly her face lightened up & she gained her confidence... and she ended with a note!

Then my only sister and the love of my life took the stage... she didn't look like she was hitting any note, then again to encourage her, i did my thumbs up one more time! She instantly picked up momentum and she closed with a very powerful impact full message! She then confessed that it was my encouragement that gave her orientation tonight! 

Today I learnt, it is encouragement that helps one to uplift themselves thus producing better results! I will continue to encourage people around me :)

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Your friends define you!

This afternoon I had a group of people that came over to my place. I got to know them lately and I am working with them to set up NorthStar in Bangladesh. ( NorthStar is an organization that was put together by my close friends and I... exactly 21 months ago to help ordinary people across the globe to live their best lives!)

This group of people were a little down as they were not seeing the results they anticipated and I told them since I have a nice flat screen why don't we watch a movie this afternoon! My sister and some other friends joined us too...

So we all sat together... the Malaysian way... with drinks & kacang ( ground nuts) and watched a famous Hindi movie called Lagaan! The last, I watched this movie was like 4 years ago! 

The movie is all about... the spirit in you! It's not about talent, skills, cash or anything else but only the spirit that you have inside you! 

And at the end of the movie, one of them said, "I have watched this like 35 times but today is the first time I felt the spirit and energy" and he continued..."maybe it is because of the people around me in this room and I don't know what and how but I am ready to go out and give all I have!". 

Bravo! Your friends define you!

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You surely have come far!

You know you have done something in a country is when u land in the airport, someone sees you walking out of the plane and the word goes around " the lady is back!" and before you realize, strangers come running to you to shake your hands! 

And they say, "we knew you are the one! I have attended your program here. It's my lucky day, I saw you today!"

And others who got off the plane with you, give you the look, who on the earth are you! 

I enjoyed every moment of it!

May God grant me more energy to be better everyday! 

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I am back!

It has been very long since I took some time to write again!

I am guilty of always starting something and then putting it aside for the cows to come back home... and many many moons i will regret and say... only if i continued!

So, this time I am going to pick this from where I left and I will continue to put my thoughts to words again!

Hope you will continue to enjoy reading my blog... and for the final time sorry for the long wait!

I am back!

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Footprints in our hearts

Growing up in all girls school we were used to exchanging notes, cards, gifts that says "once friends, friends forever..."!

I have always asked... "friends forever, is that true? ".

Lately I got an opportunity to get intouch with my old girlfriends... some, we have not met for last 18 years! No letters, emails, calls, nothing at all! 

With each one of them that I spoke to lately, one thing remained the same... we connected... our old memories brought us together instantly! The years of gap between us just disappeared! 

Maybe this is what it means when people say... Friends leave footprints in our hearts and they live in us long after the memories in our eyes fade... cheers!

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Be careful what you wish for...

As a child in school I was very active in uniform units and particularly an organisation called St.John Ambulance. I was leading this organisation in school for like 5 years and I really liked what I was doing and everytime someone asked me, what I want to do when I leave school, I would say Doctor, Engineer maybe or could be lawyer but deep in my heart I always cried out... God give me a job just like what I do in school today but can earn alots of money... and today I have exactly what i asked for! Be careful what you wish for... they come true :)

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